Teaching Our Kids Boundaries Series

“For anyone in a parenting or teaching role, helping children learn responsibility is a key issue.  From temper tantrums and attitude problems, to drugs and sex, learning limits and becoming responsible is a major part of growing up.
Kids who haven’t learned these skills often struggle in:

  • Relationships
  • School
  • Conduct
  • Work
  • Spirituality
  • Morality

As any parent knows, simply telling kids to “do the right thing” isn’t enough And ‘making them mind’ is often futile. Boundaries With Kids helps grown-ups teach children how to become stewards of their lives, behavior, and values by establishing healthy boundaries with them. As parents learn to set appropriate boundaries and consequences with children, the kids begin developing: ownership of their lives discipline and self-control respect for others love and freedom.” ~Boundaries With Kids

One of the things I LOVED doing when I worked as a counselor was teaching workshops to parents, teachers and students.  I enjoyed it because I was able to dive into one subject, learn it, research it and put it into practice. And unlike a counseling session I was able to do that all in a matter of two hours with out the 6 month follow-up visits.   This is one of the many parenting books that I have enjoyed using for our parent workshops.  Mostly because he discusses principles not “how to” information.

This is what we will go through now – May: (We will be adding the series as we move along so click on the topics below to go to the article.)

Part 1: Why Kids Need BoundariesBegin Parenting With the End In Mind

Part 2: 10 Boundary Principles Kids Need to Know

  •  Boundary 1 -Sowing and Reaping- Do Our Kids Really Need Consequences?
  • Pulling My Own Wagon
  • I Can’t Do It All, But I’m Not Helpless, Either
  • I’m Not the Only One Who Matters
  • Life Beyond “Because I’m the Mommy
  • Pain Can Be A Gift
  • Tantrums Needn’t Be Forever
  • Envy
  • Jump-starting My Engine
  • Honesty is the Best Policy

Part 3: Implementing the Boundaries

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I am looking forward to learning, relearning and putting this information into practice along side of you. One of the things that I didn’t mention above was anytime I do a workshop/seminar, God uses real life personal experiences to help me understand the subject.  Not always fun! Once I had to do a seminar on Dating and Purity as a Teen, I was chuckling wondering how God would use that as a personal life experience.  I didn’t get any personal examples for that topic but I did get a zit or two.

You dont’ need to own the book to follow along but if  you would like to get your own copy most local Christian book stores have it or you can get it here by clicking on image. 

  • Boundaries With Kids will help your child learn responsibility by teaching YOU how to:
    Recognize the boundary issues underlying child behavior problems Set boundaries and appropriate consequences with kids.
    Get out of the ‘nagging’ trap.
    Stop controlling your child and start helping your child develop self-control.
    Apply the ten laws of boundaries to parenting
  • Take six practical steps for implementing boundaries with your kids.

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7 Responses to “Teaching Our Kids Boundaries Series”

  1. April 18, 2012 at 10:10 am #

    I have to say I don’t reccommend this book. My mom used two books raising me. I’m pretty sure this was one of them. She gave me this book after I had my own kids and I recognized a lot of things she did that when I was a kid just felt awkward and in retrospect I can see didn’t really help me or change my behaviour. I remember long awkward family meetings, and being endlessly asked “why I did something” when I was too little to really understand why I did it, or didn’t want to tell her the real reason and would just make up something that I thought would get me in less trouble. Another book she used was by Dr. Dobson, which I also read as a parent. I remember the techniques my mom used that were from that book too, and I remember at the time not “liking” everything there, but respecting it. And I remember that it did change my behavior. I remember that she seemed more in control of herself with those things, and didn’t seem to want to try to put me in control, which in retrospect I think was part of the awkwardness of the other techniques. At the end of the day having parents being in control doesn’t bother kids, it reassures them…it’s if what they try to control is arbitrary and unnessary or if they control without love that makes that a bad thing.

    I can’t say whether the “Bounderies” this would work better in the classroom than it did in the home. Many things in the Dobson book aren’t things you can do in the classroom, and wouldn’t work the same there anyways. It may work better for different personality types too. Also, I see the Boundaries techniques being better for teens and older kids, not younger ones.

  2. April 18, 2012 at 10:36 am #

    Hi Gale, This book was published not too long ago. So if I am doing my calculations right this book by Cloud & Townsend is probably not the book your mom used. Sorry you didn’t have such positive experiences from whatever books your mother used.
    I am big on people using what works and doesn’t from books. There isn’t a book that I have felt worked with all my kids 100 percent other than the principles I get from the Bible. Take and leave as needed from parenting books.This book shares principles with parents so it’s effectiveness and age level appropriateness is totally dependent on the user. How one chooses to apply the principles depending on age and circumstances is all left up to the parent, teacher, caregiver, etc……. This is the reason I love books based on principles not how to’s.
    Thanks for stopping by.

  3. April 22, 2012 at 2:14 pm #

    We did this series over the Summer in our small group and I thought it was pretty good! I am a huge fan of the orginal Boundaries, book! It is definitely a must read!

    Take care,


  4. April 25, 2012 at 6:48 am #

    I am excited for this series of posts. This book sounds great and I am ready to implement some principles! This is being featured today at {Junk in their Trunk}, thanks for linking up!!


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