Modest is Hottest: How to be Stylishly Modest

Modest is Hottest, and now with the fashion industry catching on to what the Quakers have been sharing with us for centuries, we don’t have to sacrifice fashion for modesty.

I have a funny story to share about Quakers and modesty.  Back in one of my counseling classes in grad school there was a sweet lady who was a Quaker.  That year our school had Spirit Week, and I participated in Twin day. My friend and I found some awful, gaudy and flashy dresses on a sale rack and we decided we would wear them for Twin Day.  All of my friends had participated so I didn’t feel awkward until I walked into my more mature counseling class wearing my bright, sequins, short dress that was anything but modest.  Over by the wall, in her usual spot sat my sweet friend that was a Quaker with her 5 visiting Quaker friends all in their dark clothing and bonnets. The only other open seat was next to them which meant I had to walk past them. In my bright, flashy sequins dress and red from embarrassment face I said hi and quickly sat down. I am glad I can laugh about it now.

Now back to dressing stylishly modest.  The key to feeling attractive is self-confidence it’s not wearing clothes that leave very little to the imagination.  Here are some tips to help you check yourself before you leave the department store or walk out of your house.  You can also shop at clothing shops that make clothes with modesty in mind, I like

5 Things to Check Before You Walk Out the Door

1. Bend over check. Bend over and check if your butt crack is showing or if your blouse hangs too low.  Wear it with a long blouse or with a camisole or tank top under your shirt to cover your butt crack or your cleavage.  You can also use a long cardigan. Image via Mikarose Tunic Top

2. Cross your legs check.  When you cross your legs and your dress or skirt  crawls up more than a couple of inches you may need something longer or you can wear it with tights or leggings. image via Bourban and Pearls

3. Raise your hands check. Does your shirt come up? Wear a long tank top or camisole under it.

4. Button Check– When you button up your blouse is there a large gap in between each button? When buttoned does your blouse crack open in between each button because it’s too tight? Sometimes all you need are some safety pins or wear it with a long tank top or scarf. Image via The Pink Peonies

5. I See-Through You Test– Stand with your legs open wide and check if you can see through the dress as shown in the picture above when light is shining then take extra measures.  You don’t have to ditch the whole dress just add a scarf, cardigan, leggings to cover up.  Wear it with tights, leggings or a slip. Image via Style Me Pretty.

I mentioned Mikarose Shop above, they have a fabulous selection of stylishly modest clothes with a vintage flair. Here is a dress I own from them.

The Bailey dress is not just stylishly modest but I love that I can wear it to the beach or dress it up for a night out on the town. I shared some tips here on how to Dress Down Your Fancy Dress.

Guess what? Not only did I get to review this dress but if you stop by in a couple of weeks, Mikarose will be giving YOU something. You can also enter to win a $50 gift certicate to their chic shop here.

What are some of your stylishly modest tips?

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22 Responses to “Modest is Hottest: How to be Stylishly Modest”

  1. August 24, 2012 at 3:57 pm #

    These are some awesome modesty tips…. Thanks for sharing…
    I could just feel your embarrassment when you told the story of Twin day. You poor soul! I’ve certainly made blunders like that before.
    Pretty dress for the beach!!!!

  2. August 26, 2012 at 1:51 pm #

    Yes, it was embarrassing 🙂 but thankfully I can laugh about it now. Thanks for stopping by.

  3. August 28, 2012 at 6:09 am #

    Thank you for including pictures with your post. They certainly make the case that one can dress modestly and still look really cute. Passing this one on to my dear daughters. . . . I’m visiting from Be Not Wear and glad I did 🙂

  4. Rebecca
    August 28, 2012 at 11:01 am #

    We must have different views on modesty. Since when are tight pants or a deep scoop neck modest?

    • kendra
      August 28, 2012 at 11:22 am #

      Tight pants can be defined by the fabric. Some fabrics can be skin tight but still be modest – think of the cut of the rise and what it’s being worn with. I am a very modest person, both out of respect for my husband and because I feel it can be an example to young people that being attractive does not mean showing skin. This is a wonderful post on dressing modest but very stylish – especially if you’re like me 40 years old with a three year old…

    • August 28, 2012 at 12:52 pm #

      Yes, there are definitely lots of levels on modest clothing. I am sure my Quaker friend I mentioned above would not approve of any of the options above because her level of modesty is much different. I would just recommend each person to seek the Lord and if they are married to also consult their husbands as they try to find a balance on modesty. To clarify though, there aren’t any deep scoop necks pictured above that I am recommending (but again I am sure that is debatable) the first picture has a camisole under the v neck tunic blouse . The tight pants are covered with a long shirt in the first picture to cover around your butt area. The last picture is an example of what not to wear which is explained in the point.

  5. Elaine
    August 28, 2012 at 12:43 pm #

    I also have a different view on modesty. If clothing is tight enough to leave very little to the imagination, I don’t consider it modest even if all the skin is covered. I believe we really need to be aware of the image we are putting in front of men’s eyes.

  6. August 28, 2012 at 9:23 pm #

    Fantastic post! Love the title and the writing. Thanks :o)

  7. August 29, 2012 at 12:39 pm #

    Great tips! I think that Duchess Kate is actually helping to bring classy, stylish modesty back “in” for all ages…thank goodness!

  8. August 29, 2012 at 5:17 pm #

    I have my girls do the “Heads, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes” test to determine if their outfit is modest. When they put their hands on their head, does their shirt still cover their belly? Are their shoulders covered? Does their skirt/shorts/dress cover their knees? and When they touch their toes does their bum stay covered and is cleavage not visible?

  9. Angela Vincent
    July 10, 2014 at 4:14 am #

    Another modesty tip: sometimes a top can look great and not reveal cleavage when we view it from the front – as we normally do when we’re checking ourselves out in the mirror. But I taught our girls to turn to the side and take another look, as a marginally-low top can often be a bit less discreet when viewed from the side, just due to the way our curves are!!

    • Inspired by Family Mag
      July 18, 2014 at 3:46 am #

      Angela, yes, great idea. Had not thought about that. thx

  10. Robyn
    December 25, 2014 at 8:14 pm #

    Where do I find a tank like Cameron has on?

    • Inspired by Family Mag
      January 26, 2015 at 5:37 am #

      Robyn, Sorry,but I have no idea. Good luck! ~mari

  11. March 28, 2016 at 2:08 pm #

    What about with shorts? Im not sure how to check to see if my shorts are too short and how to fix it if they are.
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    • Inspired by Family Mag
      April 1, 2016 at 7:06 pm #

      Hi Ginger, I think shorts is hard because it depends on how tall you are. I am short so when I wear shorts that are just above my knees they don’t appear to show a lot of skin but on the other hand my friends with long legs if they wore shorts the same height would reveal more because they are taller. Hope that makes sense. I’d say try to keep it at 4-5 inches above the knees for shorts. ~mari


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