This is What Happens When Your Kids Hear These 3 Powerful Phrases Every Day-it’s definitely worth trying out.
I saw my oldest child walking out of the house with a little skip in his step.
The youngest child walked away with a little smirk of satisfaction.
My middle son kissed me and squeezed me a bit harder.
This is what happens when your kids hear these 3 powerful phrases every day! Even in the most chaotic mornings I know that I can say goodbye with this powerful blessing to hold on to throughout their day.
The beautiful thing about these 3 phrases is it doesn’t matter how old your children are, it can impact even the oldest of children.
I was giving a talk to single moms at a soup kitchen. My hope was to encourage them in their life as mothers who have to do it all and be all things to their children. Before I left I shared these three phrases to them and handed them a rose. There whole being was transformed.
So, don’t be afraid to use this with older children and even with your kids who are out of the house.
Have I told you lately that I…
Our kids may already know we love them but I assure you they also need to hear you say, “I love you! We all need to hear that we are loved. Even our teens who act like they could careless what you think, the truth is they do care.
I was raised in a home where I didn’t hear “I love you!” often, but I knew for a fact that my parents loved me. I will be the first to tell you I longed to hear the words.
Our kids need to know even though we don’t approve of everything they do, say or wear, regardless, we love them.
Unconditional love can change a person to become a secure person. Children long to have a base that’s secure–you. In the midst of changing trends, friends and life phases they need a firm foundation of love. The security of your love, that no matter what they do or say, you will always love them, gives your child stability in this changing world.
“Unconditional love gives children the knowledge that all will be okay in the long run. Even when we dislike or disapprove of their behaviors, our children must always know we stand beside them. Keep in mind that unconditional love doesn’t mean unconditional approval. You can reject a behavior without rejecting your child.” ~Psychology Today
related article: 8 Powerful Tips on How to Love Your Child Even When It’s Hard
A child who feels loved and valued can handle the challenges and pressures of life!
The picture below is one of my favorite pictures of middle child! It was his 4th Super Hero birthday party. Back then he was shy little guy so when the guest started he sought security from that one little finger. He squeezed it so tight I thought he would never let go.
The 3 powerful phrases I have started saying to my kids with regularity to encourage them are found in Isaiah 43:1, 4-5. The message they hear every day is clear–YOU ARE VALUABLE!
You are seen.
You are known.
You are loved!
One of the core messages of resilience is–
children need unconditional love, absolute security, and a deep connection to at least one adult if they are going to be prepared to overcome life’s challenges. ~Psychology Today
When my children are grown and missing home or going through hard times, I want them to hear the gentle and loving voice of their mom whispering–You are seen. You are known. You are loved. With every pause after each phrase, I want them to feel my love on their cheek and forehead.
But most importantly I want them to know that the Author of these Words is their Heavenly Father who won’t leave them or forsake them. Their sweet Father who says, “I have called you by name, you are mine.”
Even if you’re not a faith-based family and this verse doesn’t mean anything to you, I still encourage you to share these words with your kids. You are seen. You are known. You are loved! If you are a faith-based family I encourage you to open your Bible with your child and read it to them and explain how much they are loved by our heavenly Father.
Free Gift for You–Go Ahead and Print it Out
Now here’s a free gift for you, your very own wall art. Just print this out and give it to your child. Or print one out for yourself to remind you of the truth! Just click on this link here or download the PDF EncouragingWallArtforKids without the extra writing.
Also, I made the diy wall art (pictured above) with my son’s picture using the picmonkey.com website which I use regularly to edit my pictures. It’s free and it’s simple. This is a quick explanation of how I did it. You just need to click on Design on the top bar and choose your size and have fun adding squares, circles and your writing! If you want to add a picture of your child like I did then you need to click on the butterfly icon which is for “overlays” on the side panel and then click on the Your Own button and then add your picture.
It Won’t Hurt to Try It
I encourage you to try saying these three powerful phrases for 10 days and watch your relationship soften. But note that you have to say these words from your heart. Please don’t just say them like you’re memorizing some thing. I can’t imagine this not working even if all it’s doing is softening your hearts towards each other.